For a good understanding on how to deal with an issue, one has to have knowledge
of what it actually means. Disappointment is an emotion felt when strongly held
expectations are not met. It basically is a feeling of being let down, a rude
imposition that disrupts an individual's plans, forcing them to come up with
quick alternatives which may be inadequate at that time, resulting to the said
individual resorting to a less pleasant contingency plan. It's not altogether a
novel feeling, we've all had cause to feel disappointed at one time or another.
Dealing with disappointment however is a means of managing the baggage
which the situation brings, it has been found that people who suffer
disappointments tend to develop symptoms of stress, headache, sweaty palms and
over perspiration. Learning to manage disappointment would entail a deep
understanding of the cause of the disappointment and then effectively finding a
means to tackle it and also prevent further occurrences.
Some disappointments can be prevented while others are not avoidable,
but for the most part, One can infer that disappointments which can be
prevented has a lot to do with the individual, this might be in form of some
bogus expectation or an unrealistic evaluation or assumption which when not met
by another party will most definitely lead to a disappointment. In dealing
with such kinds, it is advised that one set realistic goals…cut down on
expectations as regards others and make room for their short comings.
Most times people get disappointed due
to misunderstanding of intent and probably due to lack of effective
communication between people. One person says one thing and the other
individual hears and works with something different. To handle this one has to
ensure that clear communication is implemented. It is advised that for
precautionary measures, one should ask for feedback on the message that had
been passed across. That way, corrections would be made if there were cases of
misinterpretation.
Dealing with disappointments when they have unavoidably occurred is the
main focus of this write up. Here are some tactics that can be implemented when disappointed
1: Calm down and breathe: This is
actually quite important, when disappointments happen; the first thing that
comes to mind is to flip out or get angry. I will suggest at that point in time
to do the opposite of such negative thought as they surface. Only in an organized
state can one be able to assess the situation and carry out damage control to
avoid further contingencies. At that point one needs to recognize that raving
and ranting will only cause extra stress, it's best to find a solution to the
problem and fast.
2: Don't take it personally: It will help to understand that as great as
it would be to take responsibility for what has occurred, it won't help to
constantly go on and on beating yourself up because of it; this will only
increase the state of inadequacy if one will dwell on it. Let it be solely for
an opportunity to assess the situation and learn from it. One can find that
they could learn more about life situations thereby ensuring that such things
do not reoccur.
3: Talk about it: Talk about it with
someone who listens and who won't judge but will give an honest and
constructive advice at the end, if not talk to someone who will just
listen and watch you vent. It helps to get a feeling of closure, it probably
will help you evaluate things further, you can also get an unbiased and
different perspective of the situation which will aid in more ways than one.
4: Don't be afraid to try again: Resilience is the key to excellence. A
lot of inventions and innovations won't have been possible if the founders had
let disappointment deter them. They forged on, picked up the pieces, assembled
them once again and gave it another shot. Its worthy of note however that
insanity has been described as the act of doing the same thing consistently the
same way and expecting a different result. When you do try again, learn to try
a different tactic.
I believe these tactics will help you deal
with disappointment effectively. Practice makes perfect…start gradually and
watch you grow into that fellow that never gets disappointed.
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