Stages of Relationships

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   Almost everyone is involved in a relationship nowadays, almost every boy confess they have a girlfriend likewise most girls. But it’s not that easy you know; if you haven’t read “How to get a girl and Keep her”, try it. We all must have seen that Relationships are not built in a day. Every relationship that has tasted time came across several stages. Many of us might have experienced both the good and bad which so far have strengthened us individually and collectively. This article is not based on what actually a relationship is all about but also what has been going on so far in this current century.

 

Admiration stage: This is the beginning of it all. Before or after acceptance, admiration is everything you do. Hair, skin, lips, eyes, curves, fashion sense, swag, car, perfume, musk, chest, abs and so on is what burst your brains. You don’t really want to know what lies inside the individual at this stage, what lies in your mind is securing the person as though it’s a landed property situated in a boulevard unknown to you it might inhibit scorpions and snakes.

Excitement stage: This stage goes with lots of anxiety and excitement. Some people lose close friends at this stage by shutting the world away subconsciously or consciously, trying so hard to show or prove to the one they love that they are 100% caring both in presence and substance. This stage molds or breaks an individual. If one can be in absolute control in this stage, the next stages may be a work over.

Flirting stage: After the acceptance, you feel you have ticket to flirt anytime you want and wish. Many people go into relationships primarily because they want to have a semi-legal lips to kiss or individual to quench their sex-starvation. It is not of great surprise to see people split after this stage because there was little or no value added or transferred from both parties. It’s up to you at this stage to decide if you want to graduate into the next stage.

Adaptation stage: After the admiration, excitement, and flirting stage, your eye opens. You begin to realize the sheep you asked out might seem to be a wolf in sheep clothing. You begin to see he/she loves nagging, not a committed person, not homely, not caring, hates shaving, cant arrange his/her room or tidy laundry?..e.t.c. at this stage you consider adapting or not. Very few term to adapt because if you quit, the tendency of meeting someone worse is higher. Many people lack the ability to discern or adapt someone’s flaws unknown to them; they too are filled with flaws. Quarrel, nagging, discomfort are the primary indications that you are adapting.

Consideration stage: After successfully passing the above stages and you two are still stuck like glue, this is the stage where you begin to consider how the future might be for you two. Is he/she someone my family and friends will love, is he/she someone worth introducing to my family, where are we going to be in the next five years, will age be a factor that may hinder us dating further?. All these are worth considering so one don’t get putting so much hope on their partner.

   Like I said earlier, these stages are not primarily what all relationships are based on, but majority relationship follows these stages accordingly. Although if your aims and objectives are positively aligned and stated outright, I believe you two will stand strong while others may fall.

   Good relationships don’t just happen. It takes time, patience, dignity, tolerance, loyalty, trust and two people who want to be together to make it work. (Words from a friend Lilian)

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