KNOWING WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW

   “It’s cold in mid noon. Silence settles slowly between us, we just had a quarrel. The kind of quarrel that sparks the imagination of a hundred millions things you could do to her. Why doesn’t she listen or get my P.O.V (point of view), all these i am doing is to make her a better person. The more I get pissed, the more I figure out my heart beats in the syllables of her name. Guess she needs to grow up, I’d give her some space.”

   “The weather is so cold, all I need is his cuddle and warmth round me. He simply didn’t get me again…I can’t believe that horrible look could rest on his handsome face. Sometimes I wonder if been a lady means becoming a slave to a man. Who knows maybe that’s the price we have to pay for peace to reign because last time I checked a man is the boss isn’t it? But we are not married anyway so why this thought of complete submission?

   

Got your attention folks!!!

    Submission is something every guy finds challenging in their relationship these days. The truth is technology, development, advancement has spread the words of self-realization across the globe. I figure out ladies of the 19^th century are more submissive than the ladies of this century. Well, I guess the battle for gender equality has been over fought that the victory has surpass the objective.

    The male gender remains the head of the family and a relationship. The females are weird specie I have studied for a while and I drew a conclusion. “Females are very fast in learning, adapting and becoming masters of what they know”. This explains why parents use so many resources to raise their female children with adequate care and sometime cruelty.

Your Boyfriend or Husband is your Daddy.

   Lol don’t kill me yet, Let me explain this statement. Will you believe me if I say “Majority ladies do not know what they need?” I know we all know what we want but I am talking of “Needs”. “Needs” are priority while “Wants” are minority…you get your Wants after your Needs must have been met or in the process of getting your Needs, Wants can be satisfied”. This explains why every reasonable guy needs to work on himself really hard from Day1. Been focus, determined, consistent, more or less a Daniel Greg character (James Bond). You can laugh now. Guys you can’t give what you don’t have. If you don’t have qualities then don’t expect one. I see some male folks admire high class girls not knowing they can pick just any random girl and make her the principal of the high class chick.

   Ladies need men who have focus so they can tag along, if you haven’t worked on yourself as a man, the atmosphere evoked in your relationship is likely to ruin you two apart. I have seen relationships that redefine people for good while others change people to maggot. Although same way I still expect ladies to work on themselves. Recently I figured out “life is like a puzzle, when you polish yourself, there is a perfect place you fit into but when you don’t, been fixed is a problem”.  

   Dating is a tool used for self-discovery, enlargement of maturity, broadening of ones understanding to issues within and beyond. The ability to love and same time be focused qualifies your maturity graduation. Initially it might not be fun or pleasure but the question is “how much knowledge does your spouse emit in your relationship”? This determines if you wasting time and resources? Remember its not the number of years (quantity) but the amount of worth derived (quality).

   Everyone sometime or another has to be selfish in a relationship, if the cost is more than the gain please eject. When i say selfish i am talking about cases where we come across some people who have negative effect in our life...gain is not all about finances, sex, and so on. If you read this article very well, the gain is staring at you.

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