SOLUTION TO HEARTBREAK By Newton Paul

 

*This article was edited by John Ovuson

Does the beast with talons that tears diamond have a mixture to tame him? Can the broken heart be sealed to love again? Can anything good come to you after heartbreak?

The answer is yes. But before we go far, what is HEARTBREAK?

Heartbreak is a traumatic state or condition experienced by an individual who loses someone his heart beats for in an intimate way.

Heartbreak is an absolute normal thing; if your heart hasn’t been broken, I’m afraid to say you haven’t started living. It must be stretched, pounded, used as a sling shot of emotions. Well not maybe as bad as how mine was but if you wanna grow in the world of emotions, you need to be initiated with heartbreak. I started having heartbreaks at a very tender age (just hope mum don’t get to read this LOL), but guys, for real I started loving at a very young age. I fought and lost in the heartbreak issues until I realised these facts:

I never understood the real definition and meaning of love. Love is a choice; you can choose to love someone and same time not to. Whichever way, you end up being heartbroken.

Heartbreak gives you the ability to grow; it makes you see things you never saw. Ever wonder what happens when someone is in the mourning season of heartbreak? He/she begins to think and wonder what went wrong, what did he/she do so right or what did he/she do so wrong.

The solution to heartbreak starts right before you start the relationship.

Some people love so much that they don’t love themselves, you need to reserve some love for yourself. I’m not saying you should be selfish, but just keep some love aside as a backup. This way, you won’t be all that obsessed about your lover that whenever he or she goes, you’d be looking for a gun to pull its trigger.

Some people say the first relationship is the best. I admit to that but I can assure you that the last or 1millionth relationship is the best. It all boils on the level of knowledge you have and also your spouse. The default relationship is that you both give yourselves as much love as needed; it’s a two way flow so that way, no one is cheated but on the case of heartbreak, what is obtainable is one, given more than the other can chew therefore, chocking or suffocating the person with so much love (which is really unbearable at times).

SPACE

We should know that people need their space. The more you cause someone to miss you, the more their love for you flourishes. When you learn how to give people their space, even when it’s time for heartbreak, you don’t really get so much pain because you’re already used to giving people their space that way the little space you know how to give will end up into a meter, then a kilometre, then a mile and then a millage.

FRIENDS

You need the right people around you to tell you beautiful things other than insults and rubbing your mistakes on your face. Friends make comedy out of the whole senior, planting you as the protagonist and your ex as the antagonist. What a lovely picture they paint in your head at the end of the day which will make you sleep better and feel less worried about your personality.

PSYCHOLOGY

How do you see yourself? How do you take issues? When autumn fall the leaves off the trees, spring brings new leaves to add colour to life. When one tissue goes off the dispenser another comes right up. When a boy or a girl leaves your life, another comes right in, most times, they are better than the previous ones.

You have to keep telling yourself ‘this is not the end, this is just the beginning; I’d get a better boy or girl’. Don’t stop there; continue working on yourself, fill the holes you must have missed in the previous relationship.

Many people spend the whole season crying; even go extra mile to commit suicide but I consider that foolish, if you kill yourself for anyone, that person will come to your burial with another spouse.

But there comes a time all the above seem not to work, if your wife or husband is to break your heart. (That, I’m not to talk about because I haven’t witnessed it and I don’t plan on witnessing it; that’s why I’m using every instrument I have right now to work towards not experiencing it). For the time being, dry up your tears and live on to the perfect days ahead. Finally the love of God is the best solution to Heartbreak...

STAY UP AND STAY BRIGHT.

Listen to this amazing song "COCO" by Chify Jay 
I love this song so much that i feel like singing it to my humm...Lol. 
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