UNDERSTANDING: A NOTE TO GIRLS By Newton Paul

   I read so many articles complaining about boys and how unreasonable they are when it comes to knowing people especially ladies feelings. Today, I want to say all I have had in mind about ladies since I was a foetus.

If you ask a boy what a girl likes, his response would be:

BOY: Pleasant surprises, interesting things, making her feel special, care, love, understanding, attention and cash even though you don’t wanna agree with me.

But if you ask a girl what boys likes, her response would be:

GIRL:    Sex, being in charge, soccer, hanging out with his pals (laugh).

Then I get to ask a guy what do girls dislike?

BOY:    Lies, bugging, not given attention, not responding to her conversations, it goes on and on, an endless list, you know what I’m saying?

What do boys dislike?

GIRL:    Being denied sex by their girlfriend, being compared with someone, nagging.

   Over the years, girl’s attitude towards the opposite sex has become fierce without any explanation. I was discussing with a female friend and she told me “Guys know girls better because it’s through the study they ask girls out. Girls don’t know guys much because a girl would not make an impression until she is going out with him. Most girls feel they don’t need to know a guy because they feel the guy has to adjust to their attitude (way of life)". 
   Another female friend told me "Ladies say stuff like; he has to take me the way I am. Every girl have a driving point, it can be money, fun, jokes and so on. Its left for the guy to know what exactly a girl likes and dislikes".

   Can I say, the fact that females know the superficial part of a male is the beginning of the sex battle we have today?

   The beginning of knowing the male sex is equal to the beginning of knowing your man. Just like mathematics 1+1=2 is the perfect formula in solving every other problem in world.

Girls be like “okay he took me out, bought me gifts, bla bla bla” still not knowing what they can do in return to make their man happy outside sex. Hello... sex is not everything in a man’s life!!! Do you respect him in public and disrespect him when you two are alone? Do you use words against him so he keeps begging for forgiveness over nothing? Then you are guilty.

   Relationship is a ship both parties are captains. They need constitutions to guide them both so they can move further and farther, even inside the thick fogs and storms of life.

     Many ladies try testing their man to know how much he really loves them, in the process raising the mummy out of its tomb. As people grow, they evade trials even without your test so no need to call the rain when you have no umbrella.

   Be a man and dictate your constitutions. “Aint no nagging in this house, if you got a problem with me? Say it and don’t keep it”.

On the other hand what are the stuff boys dislikes?

A statement like “don’t talk to me again”, using his past against him, keeping him mute, intrusion, said something when asked you say nothing. Why say it in the first place?

 

How can we solve this?

   Stop being selfish. Instead of watching, act and investigate what your man likes and dislikes. This way you make life easier for yourself…

   Asking critical questions that reflect his true being during friendship stage. Unfortunately, girls prefer being listened to rather than listening.

 

   *Girls don’t really know their wants and needs maybe that’s why they are naturally attracted to older guys who they feel are more experienced and can lead them in better direction.

   *Girls, do you know if your man keeps begging you, chances of you losing taste in him increases?

   *Guys, do you know begging your girl too much because you don’t want to lose her increases your chances of losing her? Too much of everything is bad so you just keep it moderate.

   *Girls, you don’t have to keep expecting your man to know you especially when you’ve not dictate yourself to him while you’ve not tried knowing him. Boys no be Merlin (Boys don’t read minds).

   *A girl having a real terrible attitude makes her more of a sex object than a marriageable object.

   *You need to work on yourself girls so you won’t keep giving birth to wackos like you. Greater works shall your children do (if you are naughty and rude your kid is going to be worse than that). Keep that in mind.

   Let me share a brief story with you, it may x-ray vital points to your vision.

There are two small kids, Boy A is older than Girl B. Girl B is given a lollipop by her mum, she enjoys alone. Boy A hovers around Girl B, targeting the lollipop without her knowledge. He grabs the lollipop from her fragile grip, deeps it in his mouth. She starts to whine, he returns it to her knowing he just unleashed her fury. Out of anger, she tries hitting him but he is too swift and strong, all her hits and bites are weak, however activating more anger. She rolls on the floor kicking mere concrete, shouting and wailing to fulfill her thirst of vengeance but it leads to nothing. Boy A laughs and dances around making funny sounds fueling her fury.

   Their mother returns to see Girl B on the floor crying, she deduces that Boy A has done something because she has his evil records. She picks up a cane, flogs Girl B for disgracing her young self, reaches out for Boy A, smacks him a few times but due to his Neo skills, he escapes leaving Girl B alone to enjoy the lashes of his own actions. Girl B receives countless number of strokes for every tear and noise she makes.

   Linking it to the subject matter “Understanding” I realized many of us are like Boy A, we start something and leave it for the other to finish or receive every single punishment for our own mistakes, some people literally start up an argument by mere jokes and then it turns to naked grenade. This action is not fair and is seriously inhumane. We should know what each and everyone likes and dislike and stay away from it to keep the bond stronger.

Edited by Agha Uchechi 
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