Hello folks, friends and fans how are ya all
doing? During my stay at the UK I got to see a whole lots difference on how men
treat women especially married folks. When we watch movies, we see white men
help do laundry, assist in the kitchen, do the gardens, water the flowers and
so many things while we see African men contrast the idea. We feel it’s a
woman’s job to care for the house, cleanup the kitchen, visit the market, and
so on while the men just goes to work, make money for the family and it ends
there case closed (Lol I know that sounds untrue, well let’s use that as a case study).
On the other hand there are some white folks who exhibit violent behavior such
as abuse women, in some cases murder them; we see this stuff on television, movies,
and newspapers and so on (They are true indeed).
In this article, we will be talking on
moderate basis, moderate guys and moderate economic strength. To some extent
some homes operate on the basis of our case study.
We’ve come across some quote like “Black
guys are better in bed while white guys are better in care”. Which will
you go for? Once the act of coitus occurs and a lady takes in, from that point all
she needs is care, understanding, love, and pampering. I was opportune to talk
to some girls on this issue “who they’d prefer settling with”. One of them said
“I don’t like white guys they irritate me”, another said “I prefer Nigerian men
because of how manly they term to look and be.”
Another told me she doesn’t like Nigerian
guys because of how authoritative they get and how much they share work and act
un-caring in some cases unlike guys with Western background who cooks,
pamper their ladies like a baby, perform
some fairy tale treatment that makes her feel she’s acting her own blockbuster
movie. Many Nigerians who goes to the UK or visit other foreign countries end
up adjusting to the life style of treating their wives with additional care
which results to a nightmare for majority guys because the women end up
treating them bad or look for ways to screw-up since the law supports the
affairs of women.
Well we are not talking of “women’s
right”. Over the years, this has made many married couples living
abroad sometimes regret getting married to their initial spouse due to one
fault or the other (this explains the rise of divorce rate). To be frank with you,
White girls love African guys (not saying this because I am black).
African guys really know how to treat their woman right especially when they
got everything it takes (Ladies am I right?). They got good
sense of morals, intellect, aspirations and some other attribute that makes
everyone go Wow!!! Although a Black British friend of mine was telling me her
girlfriend who’s dating a white guy complains on how soft the guy is, he apologize
for everything and this gets her pissed and sometimes she says “she needs a man
that is strong and can stand on his ground”. Meanwhile let’s not conclude that
white guys are soft because I know of some renowned love doctors who are “White
men”. (Guys check out David Angelo)
Whereas, the Western world trains you to be
independent; there are no boss or madam on an average level. What
do I mean? in the Western world when you go into a shopping mall, you
push your trolley to the car and unpack it yourself, there are no guards to
assist you despite how heavy your purchase might be or open the gate for you
and later ask you for tip just like how it is done in Nigeria…majority malls
are automatic doors. Even at the petrol
station, you have to serve yourself and go pay your bill at the counter all by
yourself (I know there are very few Nigerians who can serve themselves fuel at
the station) welcome to the world of been self-reliant. This training
and exposure goes a long way in position anyone into a system of having the
consciousness of care and humanity.
I’m going to use a practical example here;
my in-law who hails from Delta State but is an American and British citizen
teaches me more than any school could. He is so hardworking, can do everything
and anything…this has made his marriage delicious and interesting, even when my
sister was pregnant he took extreme care of her…I’m not saying an average
Nigerian or African man can’t do it but there are limit to which he can do
because of the ideology of always been a boss despite how badly she needs you.
When you look closely at some African men’s wife either pregnant or not, the
women are already worn out due to the stress on their fragile shoulders then
this same men will go out and commit adultery all in the nutshell of “my wife is not sexy anymore” (now
that’s EVIL!!!).
What struck me most and initiated this
article is the statement someone made when I asked her who she prefers settling
with…. “I prefer a Black guy with Western orientation”. I scanned and x- rayed
the statement. I observed that men with Western Orientation term to be more
considerate, caring, and respectful.
In conclusion, it’s never easy being or
becoming a man. I have come to realize that as a guy
where ever you may be, which ever colour you are, even the aliens reading this it’s
never too late to work on yourself. The journey
into becoming a woman’s dream is extremely long and hectic, the earlier you
start the better and the safer your home remains intact.
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