WHO CAN YOU SETTLE WITH

   Hello folks, friends and fans how are ya all doing? During my stay at the UK I got to see a whole lots difference on how men treat women especially married folks. When we watch movies, we see white men help do laundry, assist in the kitchen, do the gardens, water the flowers and so many things while we see African men contrast the idea. We feel it’s a woman’s job to care for the house, cleanup the kitchen, visit the market, and so on while the men just goes to work, make money for the family and it ends there case closed (Lol I know that sounds untrue, well let’s use that as a case study). On the other hand there are some white folks who exhibit violent behavior such as abuse women, in some cases murder them; we see this stuff on television, movies, and newspapers and so on (They are true indeed).

   In this article, we will be talking on moderate basis, moderate guys and moderate economic strength. To some extent some homes operate on the basis of our case study.

   We’ve come across some quote like “Black guys are better in bed while white guys are better in care”. Which will you go for? Once the act of coitus occurs and a lady takes in, from that point all she needs is care, understanding, love, and pampering. I was opportune to talk to some girls on this issue “who they’d prefer settling with”. One of them said “I don’t like white guys they irritate me”, another said “I prefer Nigerian men because of how manly they term to look and be.”

   Another told me she doesn’t like Nigerian guys because of how authoritative they get and how much they share work and act un-caring in some cases unlike guys with Western background who cooks, pamper  their ladies like a baby, perform some fairy tale treatment that makes her feel she’s acting her own blockbuster movie. Many Nigerians who goes to the UK or visit other foreign countries end up adjusting to the life style of treating their wives with additional care which results to a nightmare for majority guys because the women end up treating them bad or look for ways to screw-up since the law supports the affairs of women.

   Well we are not talking of “women’s right”. Over the years, this has made many married couples living abroad sometimes regret getting married to their initial spouse due to one fault or the other (this explains the rise of divorce rate). To be frank with you, White girls love African guys (not saying this because I am black). African guys really know how to treat their woman right especially when they got everything it takes (Ladies am I right?). They got good sense of morals, intellect, aspirations and some other attribute that makes everyone go Wow!!! Although a Black British friend of mine was telling me her girlfriend who’s dating a white guy complains on how soft the guy is, he apologize for everything and this gets her pissed and sometimes she says “she needs a man that is strong and can stand on his ground”. Meanwhile let’s not conclude that white guys are soft because I know of some renowned love doctors who are “White men”. (Guys check out David Angelo)

   Whereas, the Western world trains you to be independent; there are no boss or madam on an average level. What do I mean? in the Western world when you go into a shopping mall, you push your trolley to the car and unpack it yourself, there are no guards to assist you despite how heavy your purchase might be or open the gate for you and later ask you for tip just like how it is done in Nigeria…majority malls are automatic doors.  Even at the petrol station, you have to serve yourself and go pay your bill at the counter all by yourself (I know there are very few Nigerians who can serve themselves fuel at the station) welcome to the world of been self-reliant. This training and exposure goes a long way in position anyone into a system of having the consciousness of care and humanity.

   I’m going to use a practical example here; my in-law who hails from Delta State but is an American and British citizen teaches me more than any school could. He is so hardworking, can do everything and anything…this has made his marriage delicious and interesting, even when my sister was pregnant he took extreme care of her…I’m not saying an average Nigerian or African man can’t do it but there are limit to which he can do because of the ideology of always been a boss despite how badly she needs you. When you look closely at some African men’s wife either pregnant or not, the women are already worn out due to the stress on their fragile shoulders then this same men will go out and commit adultery all in the nutshell of “my wife is not sexy anymore” (now that’s EVIL!!!).

    What struck me most and initiated this article is the statement someone made when I asked her who she prefers settling with…. “I prefer a Black guy with Western orientation”. I scanned and x- rayed the statement. I observed that men with Western Orientation term to be more considerate, caring, and respectful.

   In conclusion, it’s never easy being or becoming a man. I have come to realize that as a guy where ever you may be, which ever colour you are, even the aliens reading this it’s never too late to work on yourself. The journey into becoming a woman’s dream is extremely long and hectic, the earlier you start the better and the safer your home remains intact. 
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